The Responsibilities And Duties Of The Father Of The Bride Explained
19th June 2017
by Marina Licht
I hope all of you were lucky enough to celebrate father’s day with your dads yesterday.
Before I discuss the responsibilities and duties of the father of the bride, I just wanted to briefly touch on how important the father of the bride is.
Those of you who are lucky enough to enjoy a fabulous father/daughter relationship, it is important not to forget your dad in the wedding planning process. All too often it is your mum who has more involvement as she is the one who accompanies you to go wedding dress shopping, choose a venue etc.
However, lets not forget about how pivotal your dad is to not only your wedding day, but to your whole life. Who was there for you when you needed help with your homework? Who taught you to ride a bike? Who gave you a hug when your first boyfriend dumped you? Although you may answer, ‘my mum,’ I am sure a few of you have answered ‘my dad.’ Remember to pay attention and show love to your dad not only on father’s day but in the whole wedding planning process. If your parents are helping you out financially, also remember to thank them. This may appear obvious, but saying thanks counts for a lot.
Before I move on to the duties of the father of the bride, I also wanted to tell you how moved I have been by some of my father of the bride/bride photographs that I have featured. You can see in the photographs below the special bond these daughters have with their fathers and vice versa. It will no doubt bring tears to your eyes.
Duties of the father of the bride
1. Helping out financially
Although traditionally (years ago) the father of the bride was responsible for paying for the wedding, times have moved on. Now, more and more couples are paying for their own wedding themselves. However, they are often helped out by both sets of parents (if they are able to).
2. Travelling to the ceremony with you
Whilst you are feeling a bit nervous in the lead up to the ceremony, your father will be there with you to allay all your fears. This is also a very special moment for father/daughter time before you go from being his ‘little girl’ to becoming a wife.
3. Walking you down the aisle
Remember that your dad might be feeling as nervous as you. Use his arm for support for you and support for him. Don’t rush, take your time, and walk slowly. Treasure every step.
4. Giving the father of the bride speech
Although it is traditional for a dad to give an opening/father of the bride speech, your mum can of course give a speech instead. If your dad is a nervous speaker, tell him to make it a brief as possible. He can simply thank everyone for coming and give you and your new husband a toast. If he is a more confident speaker, he can of course include anecdotes from when you were a little girl, and his hopes for your future. The most important aspect of his speech is that he also thanks people for coming and those who have been a fundamental part of the organisation. If your parents are still married, he MUST thank his wife and say how beautiful she looks. And of course, he must say how stunning you look too!
5. Dancing with you…
You may be thinking of your first dance as newlyweds, but don’t forget to dance with your dad. A father/daughter dance is a must at your wedding.
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