Is It Acceptable To Ask For Cash For Your Wedding?
21st December 2015
by Jo Bryant
Have you thought about asking for cash for your wedding? In days gone by, it was usual for close relations to give the bride and groom a cheque for a wedding present, but once department stores started offering special gift list services this tradition faded. It became the done thing to give the bride and bridegroom items from a single store, many of which would be suited to setting up home together: toasters, linen, crockery etc.
Things have, however, come full circle. As most couples have already set up home and lived together before they get married, they don’t really ‘need’ anything. Instead, the majority of couples today ask for money, in some shape or form, as a gift list. Here at Style & the Bride, we still think it is a bit awkward and not really the done thing when it comes to wedding etiquette to demand cash for your wedding.’ However, we think it is more appropriate to ask for cash for your wedding if you are putting it into something specific, lets say for example your honeymoon.
Due to this demand, many specialist companies, such as Prezola, offer practical and sophisticated methods of requesting cash. As a result, today’s guests feel increasingly at ease with giving money because it is being well-managed, sensibly spent and destined for something specific.
How to ask for cash for your wedding
Honeymoon funds are a great option for the bride and bridegroom to afford their dream holiday, especially if they are paying for much of the wedding themselves. Guests are made to feel that they are purchasing a ‘gift’, for example contributing to flights or a seat upgrade, dinner at a specific restaurant, an activity (scuba diving, helicopter trip, seaplane transfer). The couple have the option of tailoring the options to fit their own honeymoon, complete with their own photos. Alternatively, guests can make a contribution of a lump sum; contributions of either ten, hundreds or even thousands of pounds. Honeymoon wedding list services are available through both gift registries, dedicated honeymoon companies, such as Buy Our Honeymoon, as well as many travel companies, such as Turquiose Holidays.
Money for Something Specific
There is also the option to set up one or more special ‘funds’ that guests can contribute towards. This may be a pot of money for a new car, house deposit or kitchen refit. There may be a few smaller ‘funds’, for example towards a new sofa, new carpets or bed linen. For those who really have it all, the fund can be more extravagant: contributions towards a collection of special books, a work of art or a wine cellar.
Vouchers from a Specific Gift Registry
Another option is gift list vouchers that are spent through the company’s retail partners. The couple should note that they cannot be redeemed for cash, so should choose a company with plenty of choice.
If a gift list is really not needed or wanted, guests may still feel that they want to give something. A charity list can be a good option in this situation, and most gift list companies have a multitude of UK charities to choose from. Alternatively, some charities, for example Christian Aid and the NSPCC have gift list services.
Things to Remember
Only use a reputable company and check the small print. The money should be held in a secure account before being transferred (at a time convenient to the couple), and there should be no transaction fees and no commission. Check delivery options and that there are no costs involved.
If in Doubt
It is advisable to have a few ‘real’ presents on a small list for more traditional guests who still feel awkward about giving money. This will avoid them arriving on the day, armed with something the couple really don’t want.
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